Percakapan Singkat

"Apa Kabar?"
"Alhamdulillah sehat, anda sendiri?"
"Alhamdulillah.."

Dua kata berjuta makna. Untukku, 'Apa' selalu menjadi kata tanya yang sangat tak sabaran. Enggan menanti barang satu detik pun. Tak ingin narasi panjang untuk memuaskan si 'Apa'. Hanya cukup dengan beberapa kata yang terangkai dalam sebuah kalimat jelas, pasti, dan ampuh. 'Apa' selalu meminta jawaban yang berbentuk spontanitas dari pada jawaban dengan sisipan jeda dan pikir panjang. Basi rasanya. Yang pasti, di dalam 'Apa', selalu terdapat tanda tanya besar dari si empu yang memakainya. Selalu terselip teka-teki panjang dalam otaknya. Dan perasaan resah yang mendalam akan penantian sebuah jawaban. 

Sedangkan 'Kabar', kata yang sarat dengan rasa.  Terkadang ia diselimuti dengan cemas, namun lebih banyak menyiratkan rindu, dan juga ungkapan basa-basi. Untukku? seringkali aku memakainya untuk berbasa-basi dalam memulai percakapan singkat. Namun yang aku suka adalah diferensiasi subjek nya. Ia akan menjadi basa-basi saat kamu terjebak dalam situasi yang tidak direncanakan, atau saat kamu memiliki kepentingan yang mengharuskanmu memulai percakapan dengan seseorang. Namun ia kadang bisa menjadi cemas saat kamu sebetulnya sudah sedikitnya paham dengan kondisi yang ada. Lalu, ia akan menjadi rindu saat kamu akhirnya mengalah pada ego, dan memberanikan diri dengan mengesampingkan segala imajinasi tentang kemungkinan-kemungkinan terburuk, untuk sekedar bertanya. 

Dua kata, untukku, jika aku bertanya kabarmu.. Mungkin aku sedang berbasa-basi, mungkin aku sedang cemas, atau.. mungkin saja itu, rindu.

#161217 #Dellayangmenungguterlelap

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Time doesn't heal

Remember what people tried to say when we were broken? It's okay, time will heal every wound you got.
But I think, time doesn't heal anything. Perhaps, time does a good job in making memories faded, time can make you forget. However, forget doesn't mean heals. Forget means, your brain agrees to your will of erasing the moment. In fact, you never heal. You just pretending to be okay and say that 'that's all in the past'. Everyone knows it. But once you remember, you will realize that time doesn't heal. Then, what is the best thing you can do is making a deal with yourself. Don't wait for other people to open up your hearts and helps you out. But being a superman for yourself who would depend on his own hands to set your heart free is better. You heal yourself, even it needs time. But time doesn't heal anything when you don't want to be healed. 

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Marhaban Yaa Ramadhan

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh..

Alhamdulillah Wa Syukurillah!

Ramadhan is coming! a month with full of blessings, rewards, and chances to upgrade our faith and to take steps of getting closer to Allah. How do you feel about Ramadhan? I wanna know! tell me tell me.

What I like from this month? I love to see people cheerily do the-dawn-to-dusk-fasting together, cause it makes me feel stronger. It reminds me of being suffering like those who less fortunate out there. And it reminds us to be always grateful of having what we got until now. Alhamdulillah

According to health researches, fasting from dawn-to-dusk for a month is very healthy. It seen as an exercise in a self-restraint where physically and spiritually detoxify by kicking impulses like eating midday snack, smoking, drinking coffee or tea, etc. 

Ramadhan always brings me new hopes. I hope I could be a better person, I hope Allah will forgive all my bad (because I do realize that my past was so awful), I hope I can find what I really want to be, I hope I can choose a path where Allah allows me to do, I hope I can make my mom and my dad proud of me, makes them happier, and no more grumbling for sure, hehe. I hope I'll find my happiness soon, I hope I will never hurt people's heart again, I hope I can draw a big smile in the face of every people I love most, again and over again. I hope I can be someone who is able to lighten up other people's life. I hope I can be someone who is able to inspire people and to give more moree and moreee. I hopee....... (too many!)

However, Ramadhan is not only about to avoid drinks and food during the day, but it also about not to engage with personal bad desires! Like gossiping, cursing, fighting, and many more!

As a muslims, I do feel my self that it is hard to implement the real virtue of Ramadhan. Yet, have faith! strong intentions will bring good things. Trust Allah..

This one pillar of Islam is delightful. Allah always knows how to elevating the degree of his people who believe. Inshaallah, we'll be always included to the people he protects, aminn

well, happy Ramadhan everyone! May our worship will be blessed by Allah.. 

Just remember, Ramadhan is a great chance to break bad habits, not putting them on pause.

Good night, everyone.
wassalamualaikum :)

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Baskom butut Squad

 Baskom Butut Squad!

Assalamualaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

I had missed most of the days in April, I know. But sorry to say that this month is the most hectic month, and i had to go to several places in a glance. Will you forgive me, bloggie? Hihiii

This month is a special month for my most-special-persons-in-my-life. And in this rare occasion, I’d like to introduce my dearest friends who had a huge impact in my life and I never imagine how my school life would like without them. These people gathered inside a house named Baskom Butut (A house with full of joy, laughter, and warmness). So, Hallo, Baskom Butut Squad!

First, let me tell you about the one and only girl in this house. dr.Sussy Listiarsasih, or I used to call her teh Ncus. She was the most dependable one who will take care of the house (from payment things, cleaning, and sometimes cooking). This pretty girl is a doctor! The first time I met her was at pool inside our university, where at that time her brother (who was by chance learnt in the same major with me) celebrated his birthday. All his classmates were trying to throw him to the pool! Hahahaa. And teh Ncus showed up! “What a pretty!” That was my first impression for her. And it continued until the night of that day. I walked to the lobby, waited for her brother and met her again who brought a cake with her boyfriend. (And you know? I knew that boyfriend of hers! but now her x bf) Hahahaa.

The second meeting, was when Ardi (another baskom butut squad) invited me to come along with him to go to West Lake. He said that he will join teteh’s celebration for her bachelor graduation. Well, I went with him and when we arrived, I realized that there was a big family there!! And teteh was soooo pretty in her gold dress! I remember that we took a picture together, and met her mom, her dad, and her little sister for the first time. It was really nice, because since that time I didin’t know how could I keep getting along with her until now. And yes!!! This month is a big day for her. She got married on 24th of April 2017 with her beloved one for sure! A Lingga. What a lucky bride and groom! And again! Teteh never failed to be pretty in her white traditional lace blouse and white-pink wedding gown! I believe that it’s very relieved to have our name and our beloved one written on the same line of destiny called Lauh Mahfuzh. Congratulation teh! Eventhough I didn’t get to create many pictures with you, but you know for sure that I’m happy for you, right?

An independent, nice, warmhearted, and loving girl like you must be happy forever! Thank you for our times teh. Thank you for always staying by my side, for always being there when the things could break me down, and choosing to be my best listener instead! I love you tetehh to the moon and back! Let me know if someone hurt you, I will punch them in the face !!!!! :)

Let’s meet with our second one! His name is Muhammad Ghozy Abdussalam. Just call him A oo! He is the coolest man you will see at the first sight. But then you will know that he is the most fragile man ever! It’s always been a funny thing if I tell you our first meeting story. He will be mad and maybe pinch me until my skin is peeling off? Iuuuhhh *scary. Hmm well, what I think about him? I can’t deny that he is so smart and diligent. But I’ve ever heard from his friends who took the same class with him that he was a bit stingy especially when it came to the examination time. Some of them will asked him things, but he will say ‘I haven’t study yet”. Yet in the end, he always got a good score. Hahaa (don’t get mad A oo, pleaseee). Alsooo, he is super funny. I don’t know exactly why, but every jokes that he brought always blew my laugh. We used to have a long chatting, and along with Audit, in every English class (PPB), three of us will sit together and point each other to answer Mr.Reko's questions. Hahaaa. And he is also a severe bully, really likes and enjoy to intimidate someone weaker like me. But, If he got turn to be bullied, he will immediately pouted. How unfair, right? Wleeeeeee.  He used to be a playboy, perhaps. Yet however do you know what’s even happier? Now, he is a daddy wanna be! He got married in last December and currently, his wife is pregnant for almost 4 months. Please everyone gives your du’as for my friend’s wife to be always healthy and everything will run smoothly as they planned. Happy to hear that, isn’t it? Even with that fragile and funny personality, he still a responsible man. And I know you will be a good father A oo! J

Our third personil’s name is Ardi Luthfi Kautsar, or Ardi. When you meet him, you will directly guess that he likes eating very much. Yes! That’s correct, haha. But you need to know him closer and he will serve you many tasty foods! Yeayy!. Our first meeting was at university orientation. He ever said that he had a bad impression when he met me for the first time. Omg! Am I that ugly? Or am I that scary? Huhuuu. That was very rude way of you to greet people right? Hehee. We were at the same class since the first semester until third semester. And we gathered again at our master class, right?. All I know about him, he is very playful, very Sundanese (remember when everyone was always making fun of sundanese people by saying “a lot op feofle” because they were inspired from you??) Hahaaaa. To be honest, it is normal for sundanese people who barely use ‘F’ in their daily conversation. But we had improved a lot! Right, ardi? We had been fully qualified for being a Sundanese British native, wkwkwkk. Also, he is a nice man and I used to asked him for helps, and he will try his best to help! Thank you di, I learnt to cook from him too even I often got scolded when I did a wrong step in cooking. He was such a main chef in baskom butut before teteh and others.

Last month, he bravely tied a commitment with his girlfriend and inshaallah will celebrate the wedding in the last month of this year. Eh? Or next year? I’m not sure but whenever it is, I will always cheer and support you both for your happiness. May Allah always give you guys his blessings until the Day and so on, amiinn. J

Next is the only Thailand man in Baskom Butut Squad. His name is Mushrifudeen but you can call him Udin. He was a diligent student. Can you imagine if you come from another country and you live in Indonesia where the language is not always understandable even if you have understand for a bit?. Survival is for the fittest. I think he was one of the example on it. Not all literatures that we found at university used English version. I thought Udin has to translate it back and forth until he could do his tasks or his thesis, perhaps. And adapted in foreign country was not easy at first. So, i think he already used to struggle and adapt with the situation, especially in the house where most of personil are Sundanese! Hahaaa So, he learnt a bit about Sundanese language too (even for a bad one). If you meet him, you will find that he has calm and friendly personality. Sometimes he turned to be innocent man where the men sorround him were brutal, hahaha. Because he came from Thailand, I always blabbered unclear things as long as it sounds like Thailand accent. Maybe that was because an impact from ‘crazy little things called love’ movie, where Mario Maurer (one Thai actor that I like) played in that movie. Udin will only raise his eyebrows like he was saying “What are you trying to say, della??” Hahahahahaaa.

Currently, he is working in Malaysia after finished his master degree in Yogyakarta. I haven’t heard anything again from him. But I hope Udin will always fine wherever he is, amin.

And the forth man in Baskom Butut Squad is Fahri Rizal. Let’s call him Fahri. You may say that he is Ghozy’s playmates? If you find them together, I couldn’t guarantee that they are 100% real men. Haha. It was always funny to see them, though. I can say that both of Fahri and Ghozy used to utilize their ‘good-looking’ weapon to fool the girls? (maybe). But I know everything has changed, for sure. You guys had improved so much and had matured enough to take a decision, correct?. Just like other, fahri also very diligent. He is smart eventhough at class some people often got annoyed by him because he usually asked too many questions to the lecturer and made the time felt much longer than it should be. Wkwkwkk. That’s okay actually, it just a nature of him.

Next month! He will follow teh Ncus’s step to tie the knot with a girl that he wishes will become his longlast partner in dunya and akhirat, amiiinn. I wish the best for you Fahri! May Allah always give you an ease. Inshaallah.

Next, I have Gesta F Nurbiansyah, or just call it A biyan. I forgot when was our first meeting a? Could you help me answer that? Haha, whatever! This is another alien man who was very chill and often bullied me wherever and whenever we met. You guys can’t stop him when he started to bully someone. The more you try to respond him, the more you feel that you bite your own heart. Hahaaa. So, when he tried to bully you, just shut your mouth, ignore him and keep silent until you pushed his feeling to the corner because no one cares! Or you can put a sallen expression until he felt guilty. (kidding A!). He is an easy-going person, maybe because he used to go to imigration office back and forth from our university (And it almost everyday) as part of his works, that made him easy-going? Hehee, I'm not sure. He is also funny! and he was the one who may used his power to influence the boss in IRO (from what he said, isn't he so sweet?) and supported me until I could make it! (stepped European land!!). All thanks to you a! You are T.O.P! Currently, he is studying in Turkiye! He left his beloved one just like Rangga who left Cinta behind. Perhaps he believes that if they are meant to be together, love will always find its way back. *Tsaaaaahhh (Even after hundreds of full moon?). Aha! I like one of Turkish actor named Sercan Cayoglu a! Please if it possible, make to meet him for me. And ask him to make a video by saying my name and tell him that I'm a big fan of him from Indonesia, wkwkwk ! okay a?
Anyway, goodluck for your study a! If you decide to move to Turkish girl, I just want to suggest you to clear the things with the girl you left kindly, don't be ever make yourself regret! All the best for you a biyaannn! See you again :)

Hallo Satrio Pringgo Sejati! One of the most impressive friends of mine. He always determined in his each goals. Even he is a bit sensitive tough. So, if you meet him, please do talk to him softly. Don’t ever say something harshly or he will pout straightaway and he won’t like you in the end. In his point of view, the one and only perfect girl who could talk and understand him perfectly is his gf! He has a clever, calm, and mature image, but you couldn’t absolutely imagine how spoiled and childish he was in front of his girlfriend. I remember the time when he was sick and by chance I came to Baskom Butut house and saw him lying in front of TV weakly. I felt pity and asked him if he needed something. Yet, he just shaked his head and said “No, I’m okay thank you, eya”. I didn’t believe him, for sure. I got persistent and I kept asking him for what he needed with a higher tone that in the end made him felt resentful instead. Hehee. But when his softly-wifey-to-be came, he became another alien whom I didn’t know and didn’t want to know, completely changing! Spoiled and childish! Wleee, haha. However, he cares a lot about his friends, he never hesitate to try something new. (Helped a market seller by buying all the shoes and sell it again with a lower cost, his head was full of creativity to create and sell things from his experiment, he loves to involve in many events!). Then, he is the best one to find when you need good movie references!! Yeay. Currently he is working at university, and from what I heard from our last meeting, he is planning to continue his study (doctoral program)! Waaawww, bismillah Sat! Inshaallah Allah will make it easier for every good intention!

Let’s meet our junior one! Ergi Fathurrahman. The most creative person i’ve ever met! You will appraise him as very manageable person since the first time you meet him. He planned his future very well rather than me. The courage that he had was always inspiring. He is a cousin from a friend of mine. The first time I met him was at his previous rented house in Yogyakarta. He was in the same major with me and others. A year behind me but always feels like a year ahead of me. Probably because he is more mature than me? Oh no. But the fact shows it. I was the one who always whining and coming to him for unproductive chatting, wkwkwkk. However, it really nice to having someone like him in the circle of your school life. Listen to what will he become was always exciting, he will keep blabbing on this and that explaining the way he will do in reaching his dreams. Also, he was very critical in criticizing things. Became a good partner for his cousin inside the excitement of watching football match and arguing things. I remember when it got me sick hearing both of them inside the car argued on the two of Presidential candidate of Indonesia. One of them supported Jokowi, and the other one gave his voice for Prabowo. Hffftttt, let's say that you felt like in the middle of the real Presidential debate. Hahaa. Well, currently he is in the middle of his effort in pursuing his dream. I wish you bunch of luck A! May Allah always showering you by his blessings and loves! Aminn :)  

Last but not least. let me introduce someone that always made my day! Dwi Auditya Muttaqin, or Audit, or Adit, whatever. Honestly, I can't really find the words to explain about him, but I'll try. Hmm, anyone who knew him would know that he is full of kindness. He loves to honoring guests and friends. Makes everyone comfortable being with him. Though he often becomes forgetful (easy to forget something, both important or less). He is good at maintaining relationship with people, and yes! easily having a long chit chat with strangers too. It means that he's friendly to everyone like he doesn't have any insecurities in him. Well, everyone has it for sure, but insecurity is something we may not notice. So, I was always wondering what kind of insecurities he had? Hehe. 

He is super busy person and hard worker, I know. When you are with him, you will find that his phone will never stop ringing. There was always be something that he needs to take care about. Hffftt.. And be careful, he acted reckless sometimes, and made everyone worries and panic so sudden! I think he has his half introvert personality.  He's not good at expressing his true feeling and doesn't like to talk about his personal life too much. Oya! He loves that football team so much! Persib and Madrid. You can't disturb him, even for a while when the match started. So, if you meet him, you know how to get along with him, right? :)

We were classmate just like others. But I didn't know exactly when we started getting close?. All I know, we are very different in many ways. But I hope that what will make us stronger. He taught me things, opened my eyes to not to be weak among my doubts, insecurities, and skepticism inside society's point of view. He was chill and mean sometimes because what he said always got me through to the core. Hahaaa. It hurts me like nuts but I know I always learn something and getting wiser. And I realized I should be thankful for it. Today is his day! I can't congratulate him in the face, but I know Allah will always deliver all my prays. Barakallah fiik, ujang! I hope you will always be there with full of healthy, happiness, affections, and blessings. May Allah always ease your each and every steps in reaching your dreams. And you always surrounded by people that make your laugh louder, your smile bigger, your faith stronger, and your life better, Aminn InsyaAllah! :)    

  

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Assalamualaikum everyone!

         I guess the last day in March will end perfectly, but it seems most of us are feeling hampered by the situation. While I'm trying to make my self busy, my country turned out to be busy too. This morning, I saw the news and I didn't know how to react. Sympathy? Passionate? Or sad?

          I know exactly that religion issue is always be a crucial, holy, and very sensitive. Especially when we try to hook it with Politics. Both of politics and religion played an important role in running the state. No wonder if the state only walks straight for its desire without politics and religion, everything else is absolutely a distraction.

         My country, Indonesia is one of places where diversity is a possible thing to be realized through the presence of integrity, tolerance, trust, and will to protect each other. Hence, differences are not something to be feared, shunned, or made obvious. Otherwise, the difference must be something strengthening, and escalating our mindset.

         Whatever, now I'm talking about the demonstration that just happened today. About hundred Muslim people rallied their will to gather in Istiqlal Mosque, Jakarta then walked with flocks to the President Palace. This incident actually not happened for the first time. It's like a continuation from 411 and 212 peace action in 2016. The demonstration was substantively led to Mr Ahok (Current Jakarta's governor) case, again. As we might already knew. He is a suspect for Islam blasphemy case, but he still served as a governor. The humiliation that he did over Al-maidah letter verse 51 in Al-qur'an was definitely wrong and it breaks every Muslim people's heart for sure. Hence, he got many disrespectful trait, mockery, and disappointment from some of Muslim society.

         However, what the people demand through this demontration was addressed to our President, Mr Jokowi. There were two things that the demonstrants asked. First is to humbly asked Mr Jokowi to ofiicially knock off his position as Jakarta governor. Then second is to fasten the process of Mr Ahok punishment. Honestly, it breaks my heart too watching some Muslim people held the demonstration (again) even perhaps they called it as a peace action. You know, it just feels fear, anxious, afraid of something bad that might happened, worried of making the problem even bigger and even create the rift among religious societies. 

Yet, they still did it. 

          In my point, it is better for those who followed demonstration to take another way. Serious-blowing-conversation through dialogs might be a better option for the people to spill out the demands and aspirations. And by seeing this recurring actions, Mr President also needs to make a decision by considering the people demand. If the people have to wait, explain why and give understanding. If Mr Ahok can't be punished, explain again why with clear elucidation. 

         Even personally, i know it might be hard to make Mr Ahok step down from his position because his another status as a suspect hasn't be a compelling reason unless the penalty from the court has been officially imposed. Yet, what I haven't understand yet is the rationality and its legal perspective on blasphemy case. If it's so wrong, then follow-up with an appropriate legal and punishment more sprightly and objectively. If it's not so wrong, explain. Because some people don't understand, what they know is only the fact that Mr Ahok has done something inappropriate that hurts most of Muslim's heart.
well, i hope this case can find its ending soon. I trust my country and its responsible government workers, so show us the best, give us the fairest solution that could calm people's heart.

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Selamat malam, Tuan

Selamat malam, tuan.
Entah kan kutunjukkan pada siapa.
Entah pada kamu, atau bukan.
Sebab aku pun tak pasti.
Kamu masih menjadi rahasia-Nya.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Siapapun engkau, kuharap takkan pernah berhenti mendoakanku.
Sebab aku pun berlaku sama disini.
Semoga engkau selalu dalam lindungannya.
Hingga satu masa kita dipertemukan.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Setiap hari, kan ku songsong agar jadi lebih baik.
Agar tak ada lagi rasa sesal.
Masa laluku mungkin tak dapat kuubah, begitu adanya.
Namun tentu, masa depanku takkan kubiarkan berjalan tanpa ridho dari-Nya.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Aku memang jauh dari sempurna.
Namun aku tak boleh berdiam diri saja, melewatkan segala usaha untuk sempurna.
Setidaknya, untuk membuat ibadahku sempurna.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Jika aku datang terlambat, tunggu aku sebentar lagi.
Sebab berbenah diri dan hati tak selalu mudah.
Namun aku pasti akan berusaha berlari.
Mengejar langkah tuan agar dapat beriringan.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Aku tak perlu romansa bak jutaan pasangan diluar sana.
Tak perlu pula rentetan kata penuh harap namun tak pasti.
Aku hanya ingin berbagi payung, sudikah?
Agar hujan tak buat terlalu basah, dan tetap teduh saat terik mentari datang terlalu pekat.
Agar sedih tak berlebih pun bahagia tak jadi takabur.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Ahhh.. Aku bicara terlalu banyak.
Esok, semoga masih menjadi milikku.
Sebab aku kadang terlupa akan jodoh yang pasti datang bila selalu memikirkan tuan.
Kematian.

Selamat malam, tuan.
Aku sungguh berharap kita dapat bertatap muka, merajut kisah sampai beruban.
Berdoalah, percayalah, Ia sudah membuat skenario terbaik untukku dan tuan, inshaallah.

Selamat malam, tuan.

#mysaturdaynightbelike
#happywriting

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Adulthood

Have you ever felt like the world was turning away? I think all adults must have felt it even for once.

And I wonder why adults are given this kind of sense, while I think the fairytale and its happiness-ever-after was real.

However, everyone who on the same age like me is currently stepping on this phase. Welcome to adulthood! The time of life when someone has regarded as independent, mature, and brave enough to take responsibility on every actions that he/she does. Sounds creepy but this is real.

Unlike childhood, having faith on the fairytale, huge castle, prince charming white horse, magic, pixy dust and things were allowed. Shaped those lies inside little me made me grows with that faith. And maybe not only me. I was wondering what my future looks like? Will it bloom like a gigantic rose? or will it just stay the same like the grass?

We do choose our faith. But sometimes faith becomes a funny thing. It turns up when you don't expect anything, but turns you down when you really expect a thing. And it applies to people for sure. Once in a while, people will surprise you even people also can take your breath away.. This is how adulthood works. 

The pain you feel, the ignorance you get, the pressure you bear are the color to your life. We build the future in a real life, not a future in the fairytale. Even those fairy tale might affect people when they grew up, but in adulthood, one day you'll realize that fairy tale maybe slightly different than you dreamed of. It may not a castle or a prince charming with his white horse, and it's not important to be happy ever-after. The thing that we will realize  is to do the best in every corner of our lives. 

It might hard to make everyone happy, because everything you do will be judged. Therefore, adulthood teachs you how to do everything that will ease your heart with those responsibility things. If you find that life is hard already, why do we bring more troubledown on ourselves by thinking unnecessary things?

Maybe because we just like the pain? or we just couldn't feel real? 

That is why, like what benjamin franklin meant, that knowing is better than wondering, waking is better than sleeping, and that even the biggest failure, the worst, the most intractable mistake, the beast is the hell out of never trying!

I should finally understand that even my fairytale was a lie, my reality must be greater even with a thousand burdens, obstacles, pains, and complaints. Because you know what, we have Allah, and when we do, everything will be easier, InshaAllah..

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Waiting for the dusk

Assalamualaikum, may Allah always bless your days..

Now, I think I'm in my mood to write something. So, this would be another chit-chat time!!

Today I should have taught 4 classes, it means around 8-9 hours in total. One class in the morning, two classes in the afternoon, and the last class is in the evening. My morning class was so delightful. I found my student got everything that I was trying to deliver. If not, she will asked me to repeat until she understood and got very excited. Alhamdulillah. What makes me even more happy was not only because of her ability to catch up fast, but also because of her personality trait that step by step is going more open in talking things. I like when the students are starting to see me as their friends!

Then, my second class actually came from a flock of people from magazine company. Each of them is older than me! The first time I stood in front of them, I just felt sooo discriminated, soo powerless, and inconfident. Yet, as time passed, I saw that they are not scary at all. Hahaha. In every class I took, we even shared lot of things! Maybe because most of them are married men and women, so the athmosphere was very warm and family-oriented. So I think I learnt a lot from them. And do you know what is even more exciting? When I talked to them about my amateur hobby in writing, they suggested me to send those scripts to their company rather than to keep them inside my laptop! They are definitely right, aren't they? I promise then, starting right now I will be more attempted in writing good things!!!!! Bismillaaaah

Besides, I have senior high school boy in my third class. But today, he was absent because he had a national olimpiade at his school. So proud of him! I wish him the best in everything, aminn.
So this is it, I'm still stuck at class while waiting for the dusk and another class. But oops! I think my last class in the evening will be starting soon. bye bye  for now, thenn!

Wassalamualaikum..

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Prophetic Parenting 3

Assalamualaikum ! Welcome back di ceritanya Prophetic Parenting .. Inshaallah kali ini saya mau cerita content dari buku yang manfaat sekali, khususnya buat saya sendiri nih. 

Nah, buku ini ternyata juga mengupas hal-hal yang paling baik untuk dimiliki seorang pendidik lho. Kalau kalian belum punya anak, dan memang berprofesi sebagai guru atau tenaga pengajar, pembahasan kali ini boleh lho disimak. (meski tentunya semua orang nantinya bisa berkesempatan jadi seorang pendidik ya..)

Well, yang namanya mengajar tentunya not as easy as it heard yah. Pasti ada resiko, tantangan, target-target yang perlu dicapai, dan ada juga tanggung jawabnya. Personally, saya juga lagi belajar jadi seorang pendidik yang baik, yang tentu saja harus bertanggung jawab sama apa yang sudah dimulai. Menurut buku ini, ada beberapa hal dan juga karakter yang kalau si pendidik miliki, inshaallah akan mempermudah ia dalam melakukan tugas-tugasnya. Kesempurnaan manusia memang hanya dimiliki oleh para rasul alayhimussalam, tetapi bukan berarti kita menerima begitu saja sifat manusia ini. Setiap orang diperbolehkan untuk selalu berusaha sekuat tenaga untuk terus melatih diri menjadi manusia yang memiliki akhlak baik. Sehingga alangkah baiknya jika nantinya peran seorang pendidik yang baik dapat terus dicontoh oleh generasi-generasi berikutnya, inshaallah amiinn yaa..

Okay, hal pertama yang harus diperhatikan oleh seorang pendidik adalah sifat tenang dan tidak terburu-buru. Sudah sering kan merasakan akibat dari sifat terburu-buru? Saya pribadi sering sekali menyepelekan waktu sehingga ujungnya jadi terburu-buru. Hasilnya? tentu saja tidak maksimal, bahkan gemas sendiri karena tak satisfied. Jadi sudah sepatutnya untuk memilah hal-hal yang jadi prioritas dan tidak menunda-nunda! *noteformyself.

Hal kedua yang hendaknya dimiliki seorang pendidik adalah sifat lembut dan tidak kasar. Not to be a killer, but to be a wiser. Dulu, sempat sih kepikiran kalau suatu saat jadi guru maunya jadi guru killer. Well, iya kalau killer bisa kasih manfaat positif sama anak didik, tapi kalau ternyata malah buat anak didik takut tanpa memberi manfaat? Failed sudah. Karena hakikatnya, kekasaran sering menimbulkan kerusakan, dan Allah SWT pun tidak suka kekasaran. Seperti hadits yang diriwayatkan oleh Muslim dari Aisyah RA: " Sesungguhnya Allah Maha lembut dan menyukai kelembutan. Dia memberi atas kelembutan apa yang tidak Dia beri atas kekasaran dan lainnya."

Hal ketiga adalah memiliki hati yang penyayang. Bak seorang ibu terhadap anaknya, seorang pendidik harus memiliki sifat penyayang dan tidak mendiskriminasi. Bukan hanya kepada keluarga, dan teman saja. Tetapi Rasulullah pun bersabda untuk menyayangi semua umat. Karena sesungguhnya, tidak akan masuk surga selain orang-orang yang penyayang.

Hal yang keempat adalah memilih yang termudah selama bukan termasuk dosa. Dalam mendidik, tentu saja banyak halang-rintangnya. Suatu saat kita dihadapkan pada beberapa pilihan yang memusingkan dan kadang bikin galau. Nah, saat kondisi itu tiba Rasulullah sangat menyarankan kita untuk memilih hal yang paling mudah selama hal itu tidak dosa. Tetapi, saat hal yang paling mudah itu adalah dosa, maka jauhilah sejauh-jauhnya.

Hal kelima yang harus dimiliki seorang pendidik adalah sikap toleransi. Disini, perlu sangat amat kita saring persepsi dan perspektif kita terhadap suatu kondisi yang dihadapi. Karena pada dasarnya, kita harus memahami arti dari toleransi itu sendiri. Yaitu kemampuan untuk memahami orang lain dalam bentuk yang optimal, yang artinya tidak close minded yaa, yang cenderung menimbulkan pandangan hina atau lemah, tetapi harus open minded, sehingga memunculkan pandangan yang selalu positif. 

Hal yang keenam adalah menjauhkan diri dari amarah. Dalam hal ini, mungkin kita sering menemukan orang dengan karakter yang berbeda beda. Terlebih lagi dalam menghadapi anak-anak atau bahkan dalam kehidupan bermasyarakat. Seringkali banyak tingkah laku orang-orang yang membuat kita jengkel dan ingin meluap-luap. Tapi sebagai seorang pendidik, kita harus pintar-pintar meredam amarah, atau menguasai amarah, dan hendaknya mengusir amarah tersebut dengan sifat ikhlas dan memaafkan.

Hal ketujuh adalah sikap seimbang dan proporsional. Mencontoh terhadap sikap Rasul yang selalu seimbang dan proporsional dalam urusan tiang agama, kita pun sebagai pengikutnya sudah sebaiknya dapat mengaplikasikan sikap tersebut pada urusan hidup lainnya. Dalam mengajar dan mendidik, bersikap ekstrim merupakan sifat yang tercela, maka dari itu menakar porsi pembelajaran dan bersikap secukupnya itu lebih baik. Ingat kan? Innallaha Laa yuhibbul mushrifuun.. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak menyukai orang yang berlebih-lebihan.

Hal terakhir yang harus diperhatikan adalah selingan dalam memberi nasihat.Terkadang kita terlalu asik memberikan nasihat kepada orang lain. Sampai lupa untuk melihat dari sudut pandang mereka. Karena ternyata, seringkali berbicara terlalu banyak itu tidak memberikan hasil apa-apa. Sedangkan, memberikan nasihat yang baik dengan jarang justru seringkali menghasilkan sesuatu yang besar atas izin Allah SWT, inshaallah..

Andddd That's all! Sekian untuk hari inii, semoga bermanfaat dan bisa terus diamalkan, amiin.

إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَى الرِّفْقِ مَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ - See more at: http://www.voa-islam.com/read/aqidah/2010/09/28/10431/berlaku-lembutlah-sesungguhnya-allah-menyukai-kelemahlembutan/#sthash.yvG6ooDd.dpuf

إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَى الرِّفْقِ مَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ - See more at: http://www.voa-islam.com/read/aqidah/2010/09/28/10431/berlaku-lembutlah-sesungguhnya-allah-menyukai-kelemahlembutan/#sthash.yvG6ooDd.dpuf

إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَى الرِّفْقِ مَا لَا يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ - See more at: http://www.voa-islam.com/read/aqidah/2010/09/28/10431/berlaku-lembutlah-sesungguhnya-allah-menyukai-kelemahlembutan/#sthash.yvG6ooDd.dpuf

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Learn from the Past

Assalamualaikum..

      Hope everyone is doing fine. This blog always shows the inconsistency of mine in writting. What ashamed, hffftttt. Thanks to my small pieces of work that makes me boring sometimes and then triggers me to start thinking to write and turning on the comp.

Bismillah, I don’t know whether I deserve to say something like what i’m going to say now or not. I just feel like it, nothing deeper. This is just a story of the past that I won’t forget because i know i will be able to learn from my past.

       Being a teacher was something that I would avoid hardly before. What I wanted to be since I was young and immature (I’m not saying that today I’ve been mature enough, but slightly a bit wiser enough to appreciate life than before, hihi) was soooo far away from what I’ve been today.  I never thought that I would jump to this kind of situation before. Having no choices, dragging in to the trap, but alhamdulillah that I made this step. At moments ago, I wish to become an architect. Drawing future house, having particular projects with lucrative vision and making people’s dream comes true. However I realized that my happiness in solving senior high school’s physics subject was not enough to become an architect. It was because I just could not draw. In the past, I always wonder why I never been succeeded making a straight line, but then i knew that I got my eyes cylinder. That was why I always made a terribly straight line. Yes! What i did from that time was to give up. Actually I hate that side of my self, giving up easily while I should be a fighter instead. Find ways to combat and counter attack that little cylinder also practice to draw. But whatever it was, I just did nothing. I hope everyone here will never does the same thing. Indeed, I was regretting my decision back then to giving up as an architect. Yet, I never regret to take another move which brought me to meet a lot of precious persons. Thanks Allah I chose this way.

       Enrolled to one of the best majors in my university was a pride. Hi, I was an international relation student. What I wanted to be was to become a practitioner. Standing proudly, speaking loudly, living greatly, and others. Yet again, there was a time when an unexpected turns of life coming. The more I get to know, the more I get doubt to be practitioner. That part of process was the one that leads me to take this step, decided to prefer living as an academician.

       Here I am, currently I’m staying back in my home town. A small town where International Relation studies is not available here. My precious mom and dad need me much here. Perhaps they miss their little daughter who grows this fast? Hihii. At least, wherever I am, I believe that Allah always has a better plan. I believe that I will keep changing into a better one wherever it is. I believe when we have Allah, there are nothing that should be afraid of. Allah has his own way of testing and helping his servant!

        And here No International Relation studies, doesn’t mean that I can do nothing. From here, I think I am starting to build my new hobby, Donate. Not materially, but i hope becoming a teacher can be my way to always donate sincerely lillahita’alaa. About what I knew, what I’ve been through, what I got, anything.  Sharing few experiences of mine to others hopefully inspiring my students to be better than me. No more give up, start from small thing, have faith, keep on praying, and finish what you start. At some point, it might okay to give up, but then get back to Allah, beg him! And inshaallah help will be on its way. Amiiinn

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Prophetic Parenting Part 2

لِيُنْفِقْ ذُو سَعَةٍ مِنْ سَعَتِهِ ۖ وَمَنْ قُدِرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقُهُ فَلْيُنْفِقْ مِمَّا آتَاهُ اللَّهُ ۚ لَا يُكَلِّفُ

اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا مَا آتَاهَا ۚ سَيَجْعَلُ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ عُسْرٍ يُسْرًا

"Hendaklah orang yang mampu memberi nafkah menurut kemampuannya. Dan orang yang disempitkan rezekinya hendaklah memberi nafkah dari harta yang diberikan Allah kepadanya. Allah tidak memikulkan beban kepada seseorang melainkan sekedar apa yang Allah berikan kepadanya. Allah kelak akan memberikan kelapangan sesudah kesempitan." (Q.s. ath-Thalaq : 7)

Selanjutnya, buku prophetic parenting memaparkan tentang sebaik-baiknya pahala orang yang bersedekah. Mengacu kepada surat Ath-Thalaq ayat 7 diatas, dijelaskan bahwa dalam berkeluarga, sebaik-baiknya sedekah, sebaik-baiknya nafkah adalah nafkah yang cukup dan proporsional. Tidak berlebih-lebihan ataupun pelit. Hal ini juga merupakan salah satu cara yang baik dalam mendidik serta melatih anak yang sedang berada dalam masa pertumbuhan agar senang memberi dan belajar bagaimana pendidikan manajemen yang baik bagi perekonomian keluarganya kelak. 

Diantara banyaknya sedekah, disebutkan bahwasannya sedekah yang paling baik atau yang lebih didahulukan adalah yang berupa nafkah. 

Diriwayatkan oleh Muslim dari Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu 'anhu:

Rasulullah SWT bersabda, " Satu dinar yang engkau infakkan di jalan Allah, satu dinar yang engkau infakkan untuk membebaskan budak, satu dinar yang engkau sedekahkan untuk orang miskin, dan satu dinar yang engkau nafkahkan untuk keluargamu; yang paling besar pahalanya adalah yang engkau nafkahkan untuk keluargamu." 

Selain itu banyak pula hadits-hadits lain yang meriwayatkan bahwa pahala akan selalu didapatkan oleh kaum muslim yang memberi nafkah. Ada hadits yang meriwayatkan bahwa "mencari nafkah yang halal hukumnya wajib atas setiap muslim"

Anjuran itu begitu penting sehingga ada pula hadits yang melafalkan bahwa "Barang siapa yang meninggal dunia dalam mencari nafkah yang halal, maka dia meninggal dunia dalam keadaan diampuni."

Dalam sub-bab ini, buku karya DR. Muhammad Nur Abdul Hafizh Suwaid secara gamblang mencantumkan banyak sekali hadits-hadits yang berkenaan langsung dengan pahala memberi nafkah anak dan istri. Sehingga, diantara sedekah yang paling sering kamu kerjakan, bersedekah kepada keluarga adalah hal yang lebih utama. Karena hakikatnya dalam berkeluarga, istrimu, anakmu, atau suamimu berhak mendapatkan sedekah darimu. Sehingga pahala yang didapat berupa pahala ganda, yaitu pahala dari kekerabatan, dan pahala sedekah.

Nah, selain dari pahala memberi nafkah kepada keluarga, kita juga harus tahu apa sebenarnya dari tujuan pernikahan yang Islami. Buku ini menyebutkan ada 4 tujuan dari pernikahan Islami, bukan hanya semata-mata untuk menghalalkan hubungan aja yaaa..

• Yang pertama adalah untuk memperbanyak jumlah kaum Muslimin dan memberikan kegembiraan di hati Rasulullah SAW. Kenapa gitu? Karena menikah adalah sunnah dari Rasulullah, maka barang siapa yang tidak mengamalkan sunnahnya, maka ia tidak termasuk kedalam golongannya. (dalam hadits)
• Kedua adalah untuk menjaga diri dan mendekatkan diri kepada Allah SWT. Karena sejatinya, apa yang kita suka belum tentu Allah suka, seperti halnya pacaran mungkin ya? Maka dari itu cara mendekatkan diri kepada Allah adalah dengan menjalankan apa-apa yang Allah sukai, yang semuanya halal.
• Ketiga adalah untuk membangun generasi Muslim. Karena pernikahan islami hendaknya diikuti niat untuk dapat membentuk anak-anak sholeh yang mau berjihad dijalan Allah.
• Dan yang terakhir adalah untuk keberlangsungan hidup umat manusia. Salah satu hadits yang diriwayatkan oleh ath-Thabrani dari Abu Hafsah R.A mengatakan "Janganlah salah seorang dari kalian berhenti mengharap kehadiran anak. Sebab, seseorang apabila meninggal dunia tanpa memiliki anak, namanya akan terlupakan." Maka dari itu, dengan semakin banyaknya orang kafir diluar sana, peradaban Islam pun harus terus berkembang agar dapat senantiasa diberikan kemuliaan dan kekuatan oleh Allah atas kaum Muslimin.

 Yap, sekian sudah. To be continue yaaa, semoga bermanfaat!

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Catatan Kecil

Hari demi hari selalu bergulir tanpa harus aku pinta

Waktu pun terbiasa berjalan tanpa bisa ku perlambat.

Aku ternyata mengalami sebuah siklus.

Siklus yang dimana saat kecil, mama-papa tak ajarkan.

Siklus yang dimana nantinya, aku sendiri yang belajar.

Belajar memahami suatu keadaan yang tak sempat aku cegah.

Dari dulu, aku selalu diizinkan untuk mendapatkan cinta, memberi cinta, dan bahkan saling mencinta.

Entah dari orang tua, saudara, guru, teman, tetangga, kerabat kecil, atau yang lainnya.

Namun dulu, aku belum mengerti bagaimana siklus sebuah pertemuan berjalan.

Bahwasannya, semakin diri ini mencinta, harus semakin besar pula hati ini mengikhlaskan.

Sehingga berkali-kali aku memberi kasih, selalu kembali diterpa perihnya kehilangan.

Ironi memang, karna tak siap melepas kasih.

Namun pada akhirnya, waktu selalu saja mengajarkan  hal baik.

Kini, aku lelah mengelak banyak keadaan pahit.

Seberapa sering hal-hal yang tak menyenangkan datang, kan ku berikan senyuman ikhlas.

Karena kini, aku juga mencintai yang sewaktu-waktu pergi.

Akan terus menyayangi yang sewaktu-waktu diambil.

Kini aku belajar bagaimana cara melepaskan.

Aku belajar bagaimana menyikapi kepergian.

Dan aku belajar bagaimana hari-hari terasa lebih lapang.

Selalu siap dengan kehilangan.

Selalu siap dengan kepergian.

Sebab aku, sejatinya tak pernah memiliki apa-apa.

Allah hanya menitipkanmu,

untuk aku cintai.

*inspired by Hujan-Matahari

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Prophetic Parenting Part 1

Ternyata, yang inginnya membiasakan diri untuk bisa menulis setiap saat itu gak mudah. Namun kali ini, saya lagi mau sharing isi dari buku yang lagi on-going saya baca. Ceritanya per bab aja, biar gak kehabisan topik plus jadi reminder buat saya juga kalau isinya ter arsip dengan baik. hihi *alasan.
Buku ini berjudul Prophetic Parenting. Lagi-lagi ini buku terjemahan yaa, karya DR. Muhammad Nur Abdul Hafizh Suwaid yang diterjemahkan oleh Farid Abdul Aziz Qurusy. Buku yang mempunyai judul asli Manhaj at-Tarbiyyah an-Nabawiyyah lith Thifl ini termasuk golongan buku Best Seller lhoo, karena isinya pasti best juga dong. 

Cerita pertama saya baca buku ini gara-gara banyaknya undangan walimatul ursy yang saya terima dari sekian banyak sahabat-sahabat saya. Ingat hak muslim terhadap muslim kan? Salah satunya apabila diundang, maka datanglah. Bahagia memang, mengingat momen pernikahan sahabat2 juga jadi momen reuni dengan sahabat lainnya. Namun terkadang sedih juga saat saya tak mampu hadir di hari bahagia mereka. Hanya doa baik yang terpanjat agar mereka semua diberikan kebahagiaan dunia dan akhirat, amin. 

Dari sana kadang terlintas tanya, apa yang sebenarnya mereka persiapkan sebelum memutuskan untuk menempuh kehidupan yang baru?. Awalnya penuh pertimbangan bukan? hal-hal idealis yang ditanamkan masing-masing dari kedua calon pasti terkadang menemukan celah untuk menjadi ragu. Itu yang banyak saya dengar dari cerita orang. Namun pada akhirnya, celah tersebut tentunya tak akan berubah menjadi keraguan saat dua insan tersebut dapat mengatasinya dengan bijak. Maka, hal terpenting dalam menapaki bahtera rumah tangga harus dengan perbekalan ilmu yang luas. Buku ini sangat saya rekomendasikan kepada kalian semua yang bermimpi memiliki ikatan yang sah dengan lawan jenisnya. Prophetic parenting memang berisi tentang cara Nabi mendidik anak, namun meskipun belum memiliki anak, ilmu ini memang sebaiknya diraih dari jauh-jauh hari. Jangan waktu sudah punya anak,baru cari tahu ilmunya :( 

Bagian awal buku ini bercerita bagaimana pentingnya orang tua dalam mendidik anak. Bukan hanya dalam hal belajar berjalan, makan-minum, berbicara, baca-tulis, namun semuanya. Termasuk pribadi dan kecintaannya terhadap Islam. Ibarat kata, anak bak mutiara yang mentah, belum terpahat dan terbentuk dan mudah condong terhadap sesuatu. Apabila ia diajarkan dan didekatkan dengan kebaikan, maka dengan kebaikan pula ia akan tumbuh. Namun apabila orang tua melalaikan tugasnya, membuat sang anak tumbuh dan berkembang dalam keburukan, maka azab Allah lah yang akan diterima orang tua tersebut. Maka dari itu, tanggung jawab orang tua dalam mendidik anak sangatlah besar, karena ia adalah titipan, amanah yang besar pula yang diberikan Allah SWT. 

Rasulullah SAW bersabda "Setiap kalian adalah penggembala dan setiap kalian bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya. Seorang pemimpin adalah penggembala dan dia bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya. Seorang laki-laki adalah penggembala di keluarganya dan dia bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya. Seorang wanita adalah penggembala di rumah suaminya dan dan dia bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya. Seorang pelayan adalah penggembala pada harta majikannya dan dia bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya. Setiap kalian adalah penggembala dan setiap kalian bertanggung jawab atas gembalaannya" (Muttafaqun Alayh)

Melihat bagaimana sabda Rasulullah yang bisa kalian temukan lebih banyak dalam buku tersebut, penekanan terhadap kata tanggung jawab, sangatlah besar, bukan berat. Karena pada hakikatnya, mukmin sejati selalu teguh dan ikhlas dalam menjalankan semua kewajibannya kepada Allah.

Lalu, bagaimana dengan peran seorang perempuan? Apakah tanggung jawabnya dalam mendidik anak sangat besar pula?

This part is my favorite! Untuk para muslimah diluar sana, simaklah ini dengan sebaik-baiknya. 

Shalat merupakan tiangnya agama, dan wanita adalah tiangnya negara. Saat kita (para muslimah) berbekal sesuatu yang buruk, maka hancurlah negara itu. Sebaliknya, saat kita berbekal banyak kebaikan, inshaallah kita dapat membangun negara yang baik pula. Bukankah begitu?

Dalam buku ini disebutkan bahwa Islam adalah agama keluarga, dimana seorang mukmin selalu terlibat didalamnya, terutama ketetapannya dalam keluarga dan kewajibannya dalam berumah tangga. Namun diantara kewajiban-kewajibannya dalam berkeluarga, ada unsur penting yang membantu seorang mukmin dalam membangun rumah tangga, ia adalah istri yang shalehah.

Ukhti! Ini hal paling penting yang harus dicatat, di bold, di italic, di stabilo, dan di camkan dalam-dalam. Laki-laki diberikan hak untuk mencari tahu seberapa jauh dan seberapa luas wawasan dari seorang istri. Sebab wawasan ini lah yang nantinya akan membantu sang istri dalam mengurus rumah tangga dan mendidik putra-putrinya. 

Ibaratnya, rumah tangga adalah salah satu benteng dari aqidah Islam. Dimana benteng tersebut memerlukan pertahanan yang kuat luar dan dalamnya, agar tak mudah bagi pasukan musuh untuk menerobos dan menghancurkan benteng. Maka dari itu, dalam sebuah keluarga, sang mukmin harus mampu menempatkan keluarganya dalam posisi masing-masing dengan siap siaga. Hal lainnya, tentulah harus ada muslimah shalehah yang mampu membantu sang mukmin menjaga benteng tersebut. Inilah nilai historis yang senantiasa akan menjadi amalan yang hebat apabila saat istri menjadi ibu yang mampu membangun generasi yang kuat sebagai benih dari masyarakat tersebut. Sehingga, dianjurkan kepada seorang mukmin untuk memilih sebaik-baiknya wanita karena agamanya, keshalehannya, ketaqwaannya, dan tobatnya kepada Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. 

Wanita dipersilahkan untuk mempelajari ilmu pengetahuan apa saja dengan tata cara yang sesuai dengan kemampuannya sebagai seorang wanita. Di antara kata-kata mutiara mengenai hal ini adalah: "Sesungguhnya sepasang suami-istri persis seperti satu bait syair. Tidaklah baik sebuah syair apabila baris pertama indah sementara baris keduanya buruk". Jadi, diantara suami-istri, haruslah sama-sama baik, sama-sama menguatkan, agar menjadi kesatuan yang baik pula.
 Rasulullah SAW pun bersabda bahwa sebaik-baiknya wanita yang menunggang unta adalah wanita Quraisy yang shalehah, paling sayang kepada anak di waktu kecil dan paling taat kepada suami. Itu disebabkan karena wanita Quraisy dipandang memiliki sifat-sifat yang baik, sehingga Rasulullah sangat memuji kaum wanita ini.
Buku ini memaparkan juga tentang betapa mulianya seorang wanita saat ia mampu mendidik anak-anaknya dan berbakti kepada suaminya. Inilah hal-hal yang paling utama yang nantinya akan mengangkat derajatnya ke tingkat tertinggi di mata Allah SWT. Aktifitas mulia ini yang memiliki pahala yang sama dengan berperang di jalan Allah ataupun shalat Jum'at di masjid-masjid.
Last, but not least, this part of the book menunjukkan bagaimana pentingnya seorang wanita untuk menjadi sebaik-baiknya wanita. Mendapatkan pahala yang setara meski tak harus ikut terjun ke medan perang, shalat jumat di mesjid, mengantarkan jenazah, dll. Inshaallah, buku ini dapat memberikan inspirasi dan pegangan untuk semua yang memang ingin lebih paham tentang prophetic parenting.
That's all, tunggu kelanjutannya yaa ! :D

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TRY

Was sooo last-years-album (2013), but this song currently often played again in my playlist.

But if you have downloaded their new album (Taking one for the team), soft-romance song like 'Perfectly perfect' is so perfect to listen when you're blogging something! 

I've never been the best at honesty,

I've made more mistakes than I can even count,

But things are gonna be so different now,

You make me wanna turn it all around.

I think of all the games that I have played,

The unsuspecting people that I've hurt,

Deep inside I know I don't deserve,

Another chance to finally make it work.

But I'll try, to never disappoint you,

I'll try, until I get it right,

I've always been so reckless, all of my life,

But I'll try,

For you.

I've been the best at letting people down,

I've never been the kind of person you could trust,

But if you can give me half a chance I'll show,

How much I can fix myself for you.

And I'll try, to never disappoint you,

I'll try, until I get it right, (til I get it right)

I've always been so reckless, all of my life,

But I'll try...

This time I won't make up excuses (Cause I don't wanna lose you),

Don't give up on me and I'll prove that,

I can do this!

I'll try, to never disappoint you,

I'll try, until I get it right (till I get it right),

I've always been so reckless, all of my life,

But I'll try,

For you.

(Never been the best at honesty, you know that you could never count on me)

I'll try for you!

(But if you give me half a chance I'll show, there is nothing that I wouldn't do for you!)

I'll try for you!

I've always been so reckless, all of my life,

But I'll try,

For you.

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Perspektif diatas persepsi

Malam menjelang subuh. 

Gak niat juga sih jadi anak nocturnal tapi mau gimana kalau belum bisa merem.

Jadi dari pada bolak-balik scroll instagram, facebook, twitter, dan media sosial lainnya yang bikin pusing kelamaan, saya pilih kembali lagi jadi penulis amatiran isi curcolan. Hehe

Well, another year passed! kali ini 2017 bakalan balik menggerayangi kayak taun-taun sebelumnya untuk keep productive. Yaahh, meski sebenernya banyak banget resolusi yang udah saya catat di book-planner, tapi ujung-ujungnya intinya cuma satu resolusi "NOT TO BE A LAZY PERSON"

Ini super duper plan yang simpel tapi kadang paling sulit *hfffttt. Setelah melewati satu tahun yang penuh kemalasan kemarin, tahun ini saya seenggaknya mau regularly menuhin blog pakai curcolan ala-ala aja. Semoga meskipun ala-ala, ada aja yaaa yang bergunanya. Amin.

Malam ini, saya mau sedikit merenung karena habis kedatangan pasien curhat yang kalau udah cerita kadang susaaaahhhh buat berhenti. Bukan karena rewel, but she's too deep. Dia tipikal melancholy person sih. Terpusat sama diri sendiri, dan yah a bit temperamen. I'm not saying if being self-centralized and temperament are not good. She just a close-friend who apart in space and time, jadi suatu hal yang lumrah saat ketemu bakalan kedapetan banyak cerita menarik bukan?

Memang bukan anak psikolog, but often get to hear someone's story buat saya cari tahu sedikit hal yang berkaitan sama kepribadian orang. In case to give a proper response untuk orang-orang yang tentunya punya karakter berbeda kan?. Nah, temen saya ini emang cenderung termasuk orang yang melancholy. Kadang tipe ini dianggap aneh sama beberapa orang. Tapi sebenernya, kelebihan dari orang-orang tipe ini undoubtedly cool sekali!. Temen saya satu ini emang very talented and brilliant. Sama kaya kebanyakan orang-orang tipe melancholy. Perfeksionis, dan yahh most of time punya persepsi yang idealis banget. Gak kenal deh sama yang namanya capek atau males. Beda berarti ya sama yang nulis? hihii
Tapi, mungkin karena itu jadi kadang kurang punya waktu buat having fun sama orang-orang sekitarnya. She's too focus on her self, sampai akhirnya kalau ada urusan yang gagal, murungnya kebangetan. Taraaaa, kebetulan banget dong ya ketemu saya? lagi bete-bete tipe melancholy bagusnya emang ga dipendam tapi cari orang yang mau nampung cerita, meski seringnya mereka lebih suka mendem yang ujung-ujungnya jadi temperamen dan gerutu-gerutu sendiri.

Intinya, dia curcol kalau kursi itu sandarannya bengkok dan gak enak buat didudukin. (Tentu aja ini analogi ya, it's not the real story). Dia uring-uringan sama satu masalah, itu aja dan lamaaaaa. haha.
Disini ada hal yang jadinya saya pikirin. Dia bilang sandaran kursi itu bengkok, jadi udah gak enak didudukin. Ini semacam teori basic of logic, jika P maka Q (P -> Q), dimana rantai sebab-akibat selalu real, dan exact. Halaaahh ngomong apa sih, gak penting.
Jadi, kursi yang sandarannya bengkok itu udah jadi perspektifnya dia yang paling ideal. Gak bisa diganggu gugat. Padahal, yang namanya perspektif boleh jadi beda-beda bukan?. Saat satu kasus datang, polisi dan para detektif juga gak langsung underline "jika P maka Q". Mereka pastinya bakalan putar otak jumpalitan dan investigasi secara terperinci, melihat kasus dari sudut pandang yang berbeda.
Bukankah sama dengan kursi? Perspektif atau sudut pandang dia yang bilang kalau sandaran kursi itu bengkok mungkin hanya muncul dan diperkuat dari apa yang terlihat dan diyakini oleh dirinya saja. Tanpa coba mempertimbangkan bentuk kursi itu dari sudut pandang yang berbeda.
Dan dari perspektif yang dia perkuat ini, kemungkinan besar pemikiran-pemikiran atau persepsi itu diciptakan.

Makanya, persepsi baik akan terbentuk dari perspektif yang baik pula. Sedangkan semakin jelek kita memandang atau menilai suatu hal, maka pemikiran yang mampu dihasilkan dari penilaian tersebut akan jadi jelek. Ini mungkin yang sering orang bilang sebagai korelasi antara perspektif dan persepsi seseorang. Saat seseorang memiliki perspektif yang mendominasi buruk, tentu saja akhirnya akan menghasilkan persepsi yang buruk pula. Tipe melancholy sebenernya harus lebih open minded. Dibandingkan dengan merutuki masalah secara berkelanjutan dengan perspektif perspektif yang terbilang cenderung sempit, tipe ini harus terbiasa untuk mempertimbangkan masalah tersebut dari berbagai sudut pandang, sehingga memungkinkan untuk mendatangkan persepsi positif terhadap masalah tersebut. This is what will ultimately dampen vindictive and moody nature of her.

okay, time to sleep. Mata udah keleyeng-keleyeng gak fokus sepertinya. See ya di cerita tipe sanguinis/phlegmetis/koleris ya! (senemunya yang curhat)
  

  

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Simply Being You

Hi 2017.

This is my first post on the first day of New 365 days. 

Speaking of new day, means talking about new things. What will you do on new year? What kind of changes you want to make in your new day? 

Hahhh.. My friends celebrate the event by their own manner out there. Some of them are going out with friends, some of them are having fun with their lover, some of them choose to spend the time by working, or some of them are driving somewhere for picnic with family. That's pretty cool, isn't it?

'This year will be my big year!' Lots of people will underline this words in their personal thought. Then good motivations, high spirits, and positive vibes will put them straight with their goals. Their new 365 days in the end will running perfectly as they wish. These are also sounds great, isn't it?  

Okay, let keep it aside.

Today, I will dedicate my first blogging of the year for you. Yes, you are out there.

For you who don't know what to do to start your new day, don't hesitate to ask Allah to find the way.

For you who might confuse and feeling down, don't be shy to kneel down and talk to Allah.

When you can't be like others, don't force yourself to become one. When you feel like you left behind, don't try to run and get depressed. Just speak to Allah. 

However, life is not that simple, and it won't be easy and perfect as we imagine. But we have Allah who always there and listen to our anxious feeling.

Allah creates happiness along with the grief, And creates easiness along with the hardship. Allah creates imperfection to be something special. And you know, Marilyn Monroe also ever said Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and absolutely ridiculous is better than being absolutely boring. So, it doesn't matter to be imperfect. Because in reality, everything you do will bring in two answers, compliment and rejection.

Some people may judge you as a sinner, and some people judge you as the righteous man. Just let them be. because the only one who really knows yourself is you. Then the only secret that everyone doesn't know about you is the relation between you and Allah. Hence, when you face the condition that makes you feel like you're dying, Allah is the answer. Try to get closer and makes Allah close to you. Then you won't be worry to go through your life even the hardest one. 

Hey you.

Don't try to be someone else even if it's kill you. Living in the world that's constantly trying to make you something else is hard. Yet, when you can be yourself and trying the best in that circumstances, that is a great accomplishment.

Hey you.

No matter how much pain you've ever gained, no matter how mean the world to you, and no matter people say about you. 

Don't ever feel small. You've been there at the best version of yourself.

Hey you.

Imperfection is so special, therefore.. just simply being you :)

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